17+ Spiritual Leaders, Mourners Share the Funeral Flowers That Show Your Love

Flowers have a way of expressing our emotions when words fail us. During times of grief and loss, funeral flowers attempt to off an expression of love and care for the loss of a loved one. While nothing will fill the void, funeral flowers are a meaningful way to honor the life and accomplishments of a loved one or to express your condolences to someone who has suffered a loss.

A beautiful bouquet of flowers can do what words cannot. The right funeral flower arrangement acknowledges their loss and pain while recognizing you’re there to provide the support they need during this trying time. Alternatively, if you’re preparing for a funeral, you may be overwhelmed with grief and have many things on your mind, so it’s challenging to find time to make all the appropriate arrangements.

Unfortunately, at a time of loss and grief, we may not always be in the same area. To help show our sympathy, funeral flowers delivered to the home of your loved one plays a part in expressing your heartfelt condolences. With FruitFlowers®, send a bouquet of freshly cut premium blooms, nestled in a bed of breathtaking greenery and hand-tied for a sweet and thoughtful sentiment to show your support like the Condolences Bouquet Gift Set. To have beautiful funeral flowers delivered straight to your door, along with fresh fruit and chocolate covered treats FruitFlowers® can help lift the weight off your shoulders during this trying time by making it easy to take care of the details so you can focus your energy on your loved ones.

As part of our interest in helping other acknowledge all parts of life that we cherish with our family and friends, we generally celebrate the good times. But, life throws us curve balls and if loss occurs, then we still look to family and friends for support. We set out to explore the various ways that flowers can help support our friends and family as they endure a period of grief. From those that have suffered loss to spiritual experts and business owners, we asked around to share the funeral flowers that best acknowledge grief in a time of loss. (Note: FruitFlowers® is not endorsing any of the companies or ideas discussed below, but we asked for responses to get some different perspectives.) To learn more about the best ways to express your sympathy and condolences, read more for the meaning behind many common funeral flowers.

Sharon Dylan

Sharon Dylan is the Co-Founder and Career Coach of Management Help LLC.

“White lilies are the most common flowers sent to funerals. It’s actually no doubt as these flowers have long been associated with love, peace, and hope. Hence, they are the favorite when it comes to extending good thoughts to the ones who are grieving.”

Leneille Moon

Leneille Moon is a floral designer and owner of Special Event Factory, a floral design studio in Atlanta, GA.

“The best flowers for sympathy are lilies. They are super low maintenance, they have a great fragrance and they open slowly giving the recipient the most time to enjoy them. They are also pretty affordable and can be ordered by a florist at anytime without it being a huge surcharge as if you were to order Peonies or Garden Roses. They just need to be cut and placed in cool water. They do not need to be in bright sun or in any special vase as well. They come in a variety of colors, however white should be the color of choice because it is the symbol of purity & peace.”

Craig Miller

Craig Miller is Co-Founder of Academia Labs LLC.

Send orchids, especially the ones with white flowers. Orchids are known to have long-lasting blooms which signify everlasting love, so sending one to a funeral will surely be appreciated. White orchids express sympathies and love to the departed. It also signifies the purest of intentions. Another orchid bloom color that can be sent is pink.”

Talla Kupperman


Talla Kuperman is the Founder of Love Talla, where they create one-of-a-kind fingerprint jewelry to cherish and celebrate life’s most precious people.

“If it is someone who you may not know very well and/or you want to stay in the safe zone then any arrangement with subdued, soft, turned down colors or white color would be appropriate. The type of flower doesn’t really matter. All flowers are beautiful in their own magical way.

If you know the person well and want to be out of the box and send them something meaningful then you could send them an arrangement shaped into an object that has deep and personal meaning. For example, when my brother passed away my cousins sent us a beautiful flower arrangement in the shape of a surfboard. It was beautiful and meaningful and spoke to his love of surfing. A decade later I still have this fond memory of seeing such a gorgeous flower arrangement sent in his honor but I couldn’t tell you what the dozens of other arrangements looked like or whom they came from.”

Arvie Narido


Arvie Narido, writer and gift researcher for Gift Rabbit.

“Forget-me-nots: From the word itself, forget-me-nots honor the great memories and how people shared special times together. As people navigate grief and loss, relieving the life of a deceased loved one can be agonizing — especially when people are still in the stage of denial, anger, or depression. However, one of the best ways to move towards acceptance is to confront all these emotions through commemorating great memories and stories and celebrating the life of the deceased loved one.

The symbolism of this flower is powerful as it confronts the challenge of facing painful emotions and memories. Yet, connecting with someone’s pain and acknowledging the life of someone who passed away is one of the best ways to sympathize and help people with their struggle for loss and grief.”

Maria McDowell


Maria A. McDowell, the founder at EasySearchPeople.

“If you’re looking to send sympathy asters are a good choice. Blue asters will convey your sorrow. Orchids are good, though they should be ordered ahead of time. The last thing you want to do is rush by ordering the wrong flowers. If you’re interested in sending beautiful red flowers, tulips are a good choice. Send some chrysanthemums to show gratitude.”

May Shorrock

May Shorrock is a spirituality expert at Burnt Beech and often advises people going through bereavement.

“There really is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question, as the best flower for a funeral or sympathy gesture will ultimately depend on your relationship with the deceased and what you feel would be most appropriate. That said, popular funeral flowers include lilies (especially white ones), roses, and chrysanthemums. You can never go wrong with a classic bouquet of flowers, but if you want to personalize your gesture even further, consider adding in a favorite flower of the deceased or choosing blooms that hold special symbolic meaning. For example, gladioli represent strength and moral integrity, while carnations symbolize grief and remembrance.”

Evan McCarthy


Evan McCarthy is the CEO of SportingSmiles LLC.

“I was taught that the best flowers you can buy or gift someone, especially a human being going through a trying time, is a flower that can grow. So personally I would recommend either a beautiful pot plant, like a chrysanthemum or lily that can be planted in the ground after a few weeks in the house or a small houseplant that doesn’t need much work to thrive such as a love palm.”

Shane Paarman

Shane Paarman is the founder and CEO of awesomestuff365, a blog that features unique gift ideas, cool inventions, and new technology.

“Tradtionally-speaking, the most appropriate flowers for a funeral, or for expressing sympathy and condolences, are lilies. They are the most common choice for funerals, and they symbolize renewal, eternal life, and new chapters. They also symbolize innocence, and are very apt for comforting someone that is going through a hard loss.

If you want something a bit different, however, I recommend gifting the person in question some carnations. They have a dense bloom with rich deep colors, and work really well with lilies and similarly traditional sympathy flowers, so it can demonstrate that you are there to offer support in their grief.”

Rachel Fink

Rachel Fink is the founder of Parenting Pod, a site dedicated to family mental health, positive and nurturing parenting, and wellbeing that also offers advice from licensed medical and psychiatric practitioners and experts.

“Lilies are always the safest option of flower when you’re attending a funeral or expressing your condolences for somebody’s loss. However, most white flowers will do the trick, and sometimes it’s more meaningful to pick flowers that the specific person likes, rather than going for what is traditional.

It is a good idea to accompany the flowers with a little note, expressing your sympathy. But rather than the typical “I’m sorry for your loss”, which can sometimes seem a little condescending to the one grieving, try something like “they will be remembered”, or “thinking of you in this hard time of grieving”.”

Oberon Copeland

Oberon Copeland is the founder and CEO of Very Informed, which aims to help readers become informed about products, services, and more.

“It can be difficult to know what flowers to send for a funeral or sympathy arrangement. After all, you want to express your condolences in the most thoughtful way possible. While there is no one-size-fits-all answer, here are five of the best flowers for funerals and sympathy arrangements:

1. Roses are perhaps the most popular choice for funerals and sympathy arrangements. They are available in a wide range of colors, each of which has its own meaning. For example, red roses represent love and respect, while white roses symbolize purity and innocence.

2. Lilies are another popular choice for funeral flowers. They are often used to symbolize new beginnings or the resurrection.

3. Orchids are associated with beauty and elegance, making them an ideal choice for expressing your condolences.

4. Carnations are a versatile choice for funeral flowers, as they come in a wide range of colors with each color having its own meaning. For example, white carnations represent purity and innocence, while red carnations represent love and admiration.

5. Chrysanthemums are commonly used in Asian cultures for funerals and sympathy arrangements. In China, they are often used to symbolize grief.

No matter what type of flowers you choose, they will be a beautiful way to honor your loved one and express your condolences.”

Cindy Corpis

Cindy Corpis is CEO of SearchPeopleFree, a people lookup site.

“Flowers of any kind can be used in sympathy and funeral plans as long as they are arranged by a florist in a beautiful way. However, some flowers have unique connotations, such as white lilies, pink carnations, and red tulips, which indicate innocence, memory, and love, respectively. White flowers, on the other hand, are the most common at funerals. Honor, serenity, and innocence are all symbols associated with this traditional color. Pink is a polite color that can be used to convey kindness and sympathy. Red flowers are associated with love, beauty, and strength. Lilies are one of the most popular flowers for grieving people, and they’re a wonderful choice to gift to someone who has lost a loved one. Lilies have long been associated with peace and hope, making them ideal for conveying positive thoughts to those who are grieving. White lilies come in a variety of colors.”

Rachel Scott

Rachel Scott is the Co-Founder and a Medical Practitioner of National TASC LLC.

“I highly suggest sending a funeral flower wreath of pink carnations. These beautiful and soft pink-hued flowers symbolize the remembrance of the departed loved one. Since the flower is light in color, it does not go in contrast with the funeral atmosphere. Hence, this is the perfect flower to express condolences. Make sure to send it with a card expressing sympathy to the family members left behind.”

Emma Gordon


Emma Gordon is the founder of USSalvageYards.

“I love the garden and flowers. If not for anything else, for the fact that they brighten wherever they are found and give it a new scent that I believe is soothing. During funerals or moments that require sympathy or condolences, flowers can just be the right thing to give. Their simplicity and the way they radiate beauty all year long can be a source of inspiration for the bereaved.

Roses and lilies are known to symbolize love and peace and sending those out to a mourning person could send a message that despite the bad times, there’s still someone who loves and cares for them. White flowers beautifully arranged into a bouquet alongside other colorful flowers could help bring a smile to sad faces.

Pick colorful, well-arranged fresh flowers if you send one out and ensure that you do that in time. Timing is always one important factor to consider and sending flower right away would be appreciated even more.”

Melvin Cubian


Melvin Cubian is the gardening expert at PlantIn, the world’s most popular plant care app.

“When sending funeral flowers, choosing the right type and color is critical as they psychologically interpret the emotions to be relayed to the bereaved family. Avoid choosing bright, eye-catching colors associated with celebration and joy, like red, yellow, or orange. Neutral and pale colors such as white, blue, and violet are more suited for these trying times, symbolically conveying grief and mourning. White chrysanthemums, lilies, and orchids are the best choices. For added contrast, you would never go wrong with blue or violet-tinged flowers such as hydrangeas, iris, and lavender”.

Theola Tinny

Theola Tinny is the CEO of VinPit, an Information Technology & Services Company.

“The best flowers to express your condolences are daisies, which are used to symbolize bereavement. They have a soft, tender, and sweet aroma which is very pleasant to the senses when you smell them. These are also very beautiful with their many shades of yellow, white, and pink. The flowers are perfect for expressing your love and sympathy. You can choose from the various types of corsages, wreaths, and posies for example that makes a lovely funeral flower arrangement.”

Meera Watts


Meera Watts is the Founder and CEO of Siddhi Yoga. She adores flowers and am continuously works to expand the flower collection in her garden.

“Lilies are a flower that is associated with both peace and mourning. Due to their tranquil nature, white lilies have traditionally been popular at funerals. It’s a way of sending positive thoughts and giving love and support to individuals who are grieving.”

When someone you love loses a dear friend or loved one, it’s hard to find the right words to express your support and condolences. FruitFlowers® offers a variety of funeral flowers and gift baskets, such as the Condolences Bouquet to help share your deepest sympathies and heartfelt sorrow for the loss of a loved one that words simply can’t express.

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